Anne missed a significant portion of her junior school years, which means she now requires extra help to keep up in her studies. She can be very withdrawn and finds it hard to trust adults, a result of her turbulent past. Anne’s resilience shines through her fierce independence, a trait developed from having many responsibilities at home. But there’s also a lighter side to her – she has a wonderful sense of fun.
A New Home with Denise
At 13, Anne found a new home with Denise, her current foster carer. The plan is for Anne to stay with Denise until she finishes college.
“I like living with Denise because it makes a big difference having someone who will back you up no matter what,” Anne shares. “I would rather be living at home, but I know that is not going to happen now.”
Living with Denise and other girls has been a positive experience for Anne. “I think living with other girls is good. We get together for family meals, DVD nights, and things like that, but we have our own rooms if we need to be alone. I don’t see my brother now, so these girls are the closest thing to sisters I have.”
Denise’s Fostering Journey
Denise started fostering seven years ago when her own children left home. She initially cared for children aged 5-16 but now specializes in teenage girls seeking semi-independent care. Denise excels at providing stability and fostering an environment where the girls support each other. She encourages them to develop independent living skills.
“My home has always been a family home. It was just too quiet without someone to share it with,” Denise explains. “By giving the girls, a safe space, and a place to belong, it gives them a springboard to their own lives. While they are living with me, I like to give them plenty of opportunities to make happy memories. Sometimes they face disappointments and difficulties, and you live through that with them.”
Support from Denise’s Social Worker
Denise has a great relationship with Viv her supervising social worker , who helps her navigate any concerns, especially during Anne’s quiet spells. “I need to talk through what I’ve tried and make a plan on how to support her best.”
Viv helps ensure Denise has occasional respite to recharge. Viv adds. Denise looks after her wellbeing by attending support groups and utilises the regular supervision offered. “Denise is so committed to the young people she cares for. She provides the stability they need and a family to be part of when they go on to get their own places,”
Denise laughs when people suggest living with three teenage girls must be chaotic. “Don’t knock it if you haven’t tried it. It works for us, and it might for you too.”
